Written by Dorothy Martin-Neville, PhD

In preparing for my move to a new home, I discovered that in addition to the normal anxiety, excitement, anticipation, and longing for peace and being settled, there was also the need to let go. To let go of things I never anticipated leaving behind and things far less tangible as well. 

Moving into a home with a dramatically different floor plan means some things I have will not fit. On top of that, some things such as my mattress which was 16 years old needs replacing, and my couches which after 16 years have me sitting close to the floor are going away as well. I had no problem with any of those. However, my dining set and my hutch, my heart feels the loss. It was a sad goodbye. There is no dining room in the new home so consequently nowhere to put them. They just don’t fit.  

Written by Dorothy Martin-Neville

Another week begins. As an Executive Leadership Coach, I have supported clients through mergers where not only did they need to grow their companies and their visions, they needed to grow themselves so that they could lead an even greater sized company. It had never dawned on them that they would need to be a greater-sized self as well…

When we create larger or more diverse dreams, it requires a larger presence and/or a more diversified sense of self. The “smaller” vision of who you are cannot sustain a larger dream, you need to be as big as or bigger than your dreams. Remember, you are here to lead your dreams, not have your dreams lead you…. Initially the former may work, but to sustain it or grow it, you need to be the larger entity in order to direct and support its growth.